A GOOD HELP-MEET IS GOOD IN BED
NOVEMBER 2012
by Lisa Maki
If we were able to talk casually about sex when we were still in the world, and even making jokes about it, all the more should we be able to talk freely about this now. God designed sex for marriage and exclusively for marriage. For this reason, we married people of God have the exclusive authority to talk about this topic, knowing that it is from God and therefore is pure and beautiful.
As help-meets, it is our role to serve our husbands and meet their needs, including their sexual needs. And it is a fact that men love sex and that it is their way of expressing their love to their wives. The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 that:
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Your body belongs to your husband and you have to yield it to him, meaning, surrender it to him. He can use your body when he needs it. You are instructed not to deprive him of sex except for prayer and fasting, with mutual consent, meaning ... it’s not just your decision but yours and his. But then, you have to go back to having sex again soon or the devil will tempt you. Hmmmm ... this is pretty interesting. If you deprive your husband of sex, the devil will tempt him through other women in his workplace, women in church, or any woman he sees around. And the devil will tempt you too, maybe not through some lustful desires but through some feelings of hurt and anger.
It is pretty obvious that the key to our husband’s faithfulness to us is in our hands. Give him good sex and he will remain faithful. Of course there are husbands who cheat no matter how much sex their wives give them. But generally, a man who is sexually satisfied with his wife will not even have the energy to think of other women. How can he if he is always spent?
Wives, stop making excuses on why you can’t have sex with your husband. I’ve heard endless reasons from women; it’s not even funny anymore. Want to hear some of them?
The list goes on and on and on.
If you look at sex as a chore or something merely physical, then it is surely going to be a painstaking responsibility that you would want to avoid most of the time. But if you look at it as a gift from God ... something that will draw you closer to your husband and therefore benefit your marriage and family ... a way of expressing your love for him and for God ... a means to serve him and God ... a way to fulfill the calling that God has given you ... then your entire outlook on sex will change.
I don’t know about you but I surely look forward to making love with my husband as often as we can. It is not only physically pleasurable but spiritually stimulating. The foreplay, actual lovemaking, and the after play are all so beautiful. It makes us praise and glorify our God. It draws us closer to Him. It makes us fall in love with each other over and over again.
Though I am not getting the credit for myself, I acknowledge that by surrendering to and obeying God’s instructions on being a help-meet in this area of lovemaking, I have not only pleased God and my husband but also benefited greatly from it. In short, I enjoy lovemaking greatly as a result of my submission to God and my husband.
So if you are having problems in this area, I strongly suggest that you get down on your knees, ask God for forgiveness, and ask God to help you with whatever problems you have regarding this. For as long as you are willing to fully obey God, He will give you the grace to do it.
After praying, don’t wait for another day to start serving your husband in bed. Begin tonight. Make good love with your man and know that God is smiling at you.
And don’t hesitate to email me if you want to ask more questions or if you need more advice.
Enjoy!
As help-meets, it is our role to serve our husbands and meet their needs, including their sexual needs. And it is a fact that men love sex and that it is their way of expressing their love to their wives. The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 that:
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Your body belongs to your husband and you have to yield it to him, meaning, surrender it to him. He can use your body when he needs it. You are instructed not to deprive him of sex except for prayer and fasting, with mutual consent, meaning ... it’s not just your decision but yours and his. But then, you have to go back to having sex again soon or the devil will tempt you. Hmmmm ... this is pretty interesting. If you deprive your husband of sex, the devil will tempt him through other women in his workplace, women in church, or any woman he sees around. And the devil will tempt you too, maybe not through some lustful desires but through some feelings of hurt and anger.
It is pretty obvious that the key to our husband’s faithfulness to us is in our hands. Give him good sex and he will remain faithful. Of course there are husbands who cheat no matter how much sex their wives give them. But generally, a man who is sexually satisfied with his wife will not even have the energy to think of other women. How can he if he is always spent?
Wives, stop making excuses on why you can’t have sex with your husband. I’ve heard endless reasons from women; it’s not even funny anymore. Want to hear some of them?
- “How can I have sex with him if he doesn’t even care about what I’ve been through the whole day”?
- “I’m just so tired at night; I don’t have the energy left for sex”.
- “I’m not just a very sexual person. Why does he want sex all the time”?
- “Why can’t he respect that I am not like him”?
- “I am still hurting from what he has done against me”.
- “He knows I have some past issues about sex so why can’t he just understand”?
- “I am not a switch that he can just turn on and off”.
The list goes on and on and on.
If you look at sex as a chore or something merely physical, then it is surely going to be a painstaking responsibility that you would want to avoid most of the time. But if you look at it as a gift from God ... something that will draw you closer to your husband and therefore benefit your marriage and family ... a way of expressing your love for him and for God ... a means to serve him and God ... a way to fulfill the calling that God has given you ... then your entire outlook on sex will change.
I don’t know about you but I surely look forward to making love with my husband as often as we can. It is not only physically pleasurable but spiritually stimulating. The foreplay, actual lovemaking, and the after play are all so beautiful. It makes us praise and glorify our God. It draws us closer to Him. It makes us fall in love with each other over and over again.
Though I am not getting the credit for myself, I acknowledge that by surrendering to and obeying God’s instructions on being a help-meet in this area of lovemaking, I have not only pleased God and my husband but also benefited greatly from it. In short, I enjoy lovemaking greatly as a result of my submission to God and my husband.
So if you are having problems in this area, I strongly suggest that you get down on your knees, ask God for forgiveness, and ask God to help you with whatever problems you have regarding this. For as long as you are willing to fully obey God, He will give you the grace to do it.
After praying, don’t wait for another day to start serving your husband in bed. Begin tonight. Make good love with your man and know that God is smiling at you.
And don’t hesitate to email me if you want to ask more questions or if you need more advice.
Enjoy!