THE WIFE: THE ARMOUR-BEARER
What I will share with you will change your view of your role as a wife, and marriage in general. It will make you see that most of your problems are not what they seem to be. It will make you realize that your husband is not your enemy; the devil is!
It was a few years back when a Prophet’s wife shared with me that she is her husband’s armor-bearer. At that time, I’ve only heard of the word “armor-bearer” a few times in my walk as a believer of Yeshua, but never as a wife’s role. The more I grew in my marriage, the more I realized how true this role is for us, wives.
According to Dictionary.com, an armour-bearer is “an officer selected by kings and generals because of his bravery, not only to bear their armour, but also to stand by them in the time of danger.”
Another definition of an armour-bearer that I found is “one who helps, a helper, to give strength, support.” Honestly, this is more like the role of a wife and help-meet, which clearly explains our role as “armour-bearers”.
According to Dictionary.com, an armour-bearer is “an officer selected by kings and generals because of his bravery, not only to bear their armour, but also to stand by them in the time of danger.”
Another definition of an armour-bearer that I found is “one who helps, a helper, to give strength, support.” Honestly, this is more like the role of a wife and help-meet, which clearly explains our role as “armour-bearers”.
In short, as an armour-bearer of my husband, my role is to protect him in the time of danger. I believe that this includes my ability to discern danger before it hits, to give me a better chance of protecting him. This, I believe, is the reason why wives have the ability to smell danger from afar. God did not give us this gift for nothing.
Before I proceed, I want you to drop all your preconceived notions about marriage and your expectations from your husbands. I want you to lay down your fleshly emotions – your hurts, anger, frustrations, anxieties, and fears with regards to your marriage. Drop all these down and imagine yourself as a Warrior Queen, an armour-bearer of the King.
Before I proceed, I want you to drop all your preconceived notions about marriage and your expectations from your husbands. I want you to lay down your fleshly emotions – your hurts, anger, frustrations, anxieties, and fears with regards to your marriage. Drop all these down and imagine yourself as a Warrior Queen, an armour-bearer of the King.
Now imagine that a host of army is about to attack your King and you see it miles away. You can’t tell him because you have to protect him and your Kingdom. Telling him may make him rush to the war zone and get killed. You now prepare for battle and put on your whole armour. You grab your sword, put it on its sheath, and you get your shield. You ride your horse and proceed to attack the enemies of your Kingdom.
Does this look like some desperate, crying, anxious, fearful, depressed wife to you? Does this look like a wife who is complaining about her husband – that she is not receiving love from him ... that he is cheating on her ... that he is not treating her right ... that he is not responsible ... etc. etc. NOT AT ALL!!! This Warrior Queen knows her role and is detached from all the worldly emotions that can consume her and therefore jeopardize her Kingdom.
Does this look like some desperate, crying, anxious, fearful, depressed wife to you? Does this look like a wife who is complaining about her husband – that she is not receiving love from him ... that he is cheating on her ... that he is not treating her right ... that he is not responsible ... etc. etc. NOT AT ALL!!! This Warrior Queen knows her role and is detached from all the worldly emotions that can consume her and therefore jeopardize her Kingdom.
You can be this Warrior Queen. God has already equipped you to be one. He has provided you with all the armour you need. He has given you a King and a Kingdom to fight for and protect.
Do you now realize why the devil is taunting us with our emotions? He wants to cripple us and paralyze us so we can’t fight for our husbands and our families. Satan knows our power as armour-bearers. Why do you think did he attack Eve first? He could have tempted Adam, but nope ... he chose Eve. And when he got Eve, he got Adam as well.
The devil loves to whisper in our ears: he doesn’t care about you ... he doesn’t even love you so why submit to him? ... he is going to hurt you again, it is not safe ... he is not satisfied with you ... he finds that other girl hotter ... he can’t even provide for you.
It doesn’t take a minute to make us listen to that voice and start believing it. Before long we are operating in the lie more than the truth. We cry out to God and nothing is happening. We cast out all spirits of lust, pride, and control, and it is still there. You know why? I will tell you two reasons why.
The first reason is our own underlying issues. In fact, the negative feelings we have towards our husbands are merely reflections of our own issues that God is still dealing with. Unless we see things this way, we will never be able to heal from these issues that are getting in the way of winning our battles in our marriage. Ask God to expose your issues to you first and to guide and lead you how to be delivered from it. It is a process. What is important is that you are aware of these issues and are obeying God in the steps you need to take.
The second reason is something I’ve learned from someone recently ... someone I don’t even know but who God has used time and time again to give me very timely messages.
It doesn’t take a minute to make us listen to that voice and start believing it. Before long we are operating in the lie more than the truth. We cry out to God and nothing is happening. We cast out all spirits of lust, pride, and control, and it is still there. You know why? I will tell you two reasons why.
The first reason is our own underlying issues. In fact, the negative feelings we have towards our husbands are merely reflections of our own issues that God is still dealing with. Unless we see things this way, we will never be able to heal from these issues that are getting in the way of winning our battles in our marriage. Ask God to expose your issues to you first and to guide and lead you how to be delivered from it. It is a process. What is important is that you are aware of these issues and are obeying God in the steps you need to take.
The second reason is something I’ve learned from someone recently ... someone I don’t even know but who God has used time and time again to give me very timely messages.
This person shared with me that if our shield has holes, we can’t use it effectively. The holes are fears and doubts we have entertained. To patch up these holes require the Word of God. In fact, this person said that the entire shield is made up of the Word of God.
Our sword is the Word and our faith is the shield. We may have a very powerful sword but if our shield is not solid, then we will falter. Thus, as armour-bearers, we have to make sure that our shield is intact.
Our sword is the Word and our faith is the shield. We may have a very powerful sword but if our shield is not solid, then we will falter. Thus, as armour-bearers, we have to make sure that our shield is intact.
The enemy is not our husbands. The battle is not won through arguments and even discussions. The enemy is the devil and the battle is won in the presence of God.
Now imagine yourself again as the Warrior Queen and you are going to face and confront one of the biggest enemies of your Kingdom (your marriage and family). It may be the spirit of a cheating husband, an abusive husband, a husband addicted to porn, a drug-addicted husband, a husband bound to alcohol, a lazy husband, etc. Remember, you are warring against spirits here. You are getting ready for the battle. You get your sword, which is the Bible, and you polish it by meditating on it and even writing down the ones that talk about your victory.
You slowly walk into the battlefield with your sword and shield, and with the helmet of salvation, belt of truth, breastplate of righteousness, and the gospel of peace on your feet. You begin to war by worshipping God and declaring all the promises He has given you. You continue warring through praise and worship, thanking God for His faithfulness. The war continues and escalates as you begin to smash all the lies of the enemy, replacing each lie with the truth. You shield your husband by interceding for him and breaking down strongholds. Finally, you go back and continue to worship and praise God as your enemies lay before you dead and defeated.
This is our role, my fellow wives and sisters in Yeshua. And if this is our mindset and understanding, we will continue to win, no matter how difficult it gets. Don’t forget that as armour-bearers we are to take the bullet for our husbands, in the same way that Yeshua died for us.
This is our role, my fellow wives and sisters in Yeshua. And if this is our mindset and understanding, we will continue to win, no matter how difficult it gets. Don’t forget that as armour-bearers we are to take the bullet for our husbands, in the same way that Yeshua died for us.
One last thing that I want to share with you is a Scripture I saw yesterday, which is the very reason why I wrote this article. It is in 1 Samuel 31 where King Saul was talking to his armour-bearer.
He said: “Draw your sword and thrust me through. Otherwise my enemies will come, run me through, and make a sport of me.”
Let me paraphrase this based on the revelation that the Holy Spirit gave me. Think of it as your husband talking to you.
“My beloved wife, my armour-bearer; draw your sword, the Word of God, and thrust it into my soul. Otherwise the devil will thrust his sword into my soul and make fun of me.”
Our problems with our husbands are just the tip of the iceberg. The underlying issues run deep. These problems are meant for us to hear an inner groaning of their spirits to be released from whatever the enemy is holding against them – generational curses, bondages, strongholds, past issues. They are crying out to us without them even knowing it. They are asking us to fight for them in the spiritual realm, to draw our sword and finally thrust this Word deep into their soul.
This is how we will win all our battles in our marriage, my fellow Armour-Bearers.
If you are ready to be an ARMOUR-BEARER wife, please read Part II. Click the link below.
“My beloved wife, my armour-bearer; draw your sword, the Word of God, and thrust it into my soul. Otherwise the devil will thrust his sword into my soul and make fun of me.”
Our problems with our husbands are just the tip of the iceberg. The underlying issues run deep. These problems are meant for us to hear an inner groaning of their spirits to be released from whatever the enemy is holding against them – generational curses, bondages, strongholds, past issues. They are crying out to us without them even knowing it. They are asking us to fight for them in the spiritual realm, to draw our sword and finally thrust this Word deep into their soul.
This is how we will win all our battles in our marriage, my fellow Armour-Bearers.
If you are ready to be an ARMOUR-BEARER wife, please read Part II. Click the link below.
Lisa Maki
27 July 2015
27 July 2015